You only need to put your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical hand back in your own pockets and leave things and people alone. Let them be. Make any decisions you need to make to take care of yourself, but don't make them to control other people. Start taking care of yourself.
If you don't get your socks and shoes on right now YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE!
Sometimes I'd like to switch cultures. I spent a summer overseas in Mexico and also in Azerbaijan where being late wasn't a thing. When you got there, you got there. And then you might stay much longer than anyone anticipated...making yourself late to the next thing....or on time to it. Or whatever.
Standing in front of a few hundred college students today, talking with them about how art matters in the kingdom of God, my husband and I shared some thoughts from Erwin McManus. His idea is that everyone is an artist, because we have a soul. And being an artist is simply entering into the process of ushering in beauty, goodness and truth. Which means there are a bazillion ways to do that. I can bring the kingdom of God to another with a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. It may be the good news they need right then. Hospitality and laughter and being in a home may just be the beauty their soul craves.